This is a picture of a sweet little human being that I pass by almost daily. If you look closely, at the very end of the sidewalk alley, you can barely see her little being in the shadow of the trees. This is a true representation of what I perceive to be her daily feeling of existence….just a tiny little speck on this earth! I took the picture far away because even though I don’t know her, I respect her and want to protect her from harm. Each day when I pass her, I call out “Good Morning” to her; but most days, I get no reply. Only rarely, do I hear this tiny little voice, a sound that would be the voice of a hummingbird if they could talk, reply “good morning”. So far, I have only heard it twice. And, each time, I feel myself lifted as if on wings and I have to restrain myself from running to her and hugging her and thanking her for the gift she gives me.
I know she has put up walls because of being fearful of our undependable community situation and the harm that come from “letting strangers in”. Each time she responds, I feel that I have given her a little security to hold onto that times will get better.
I am not sure “her story” but somehow I feel it is filled with many years of loneliness and sadness and fear. However, I have conceived hopes for her that she has a family that will take care of her one day when her little body becomes even more fragile and frail. And that they come to visit her at least once a week even now. My mind’s visions includes them bringing her flowers that she can plant in her well-tended garden that she is bent over every day, watering and nurturing with love and enjoyment. I project that she has grandchildren too that hug her and sit next to her as she quietly reads them a story. These are the bubble thoughts that go through my mind each day as I pass….I don’t want anyone to pop them!!!
Unfortunately, I hear the words of John Prine’s old 70’s song creep through, “Old People just grow lonesome, Waiting for someone to say, “Hello in there, Hello” and they start to pierce my bubble with each encounter.
Do you ever pass someone who gives you this feeling? Maybe it’s a neighbor or someone sitting at a park bench waiting for a bus? Maybe, it’s even someone that is part of your family that you have put on the bottom of your list to visit? So, today, here is what you can do…..
Monday Gets Respectful of the Elderly
Giving less than 10 seconds of your day can make a difference in someone’s day. There are many elderly that are very lonely and would feel like a million bucks if they felt someone cared about them and took the time to acknowledge their presence and “throw” them a smile or a “hello”. These lyrics by Prine keep echoing in my head and I think they say it best……..
“So, if you’re walking down the street sometimes
And spot some hollow, ancient eyes
Please don’t pass ’em by and stare
As if you didn’t care, instead say Hello in there,
Hello.”
They Matter….and You Matter too!
This is a video from You Tube that I hope “imbeds” in your head the need to make a difference and show the elderly that we care.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfwGkplB_sY&feature=em-share_video_user
Happy Monday!
Smiles,
Nancy
I like this very much! Thanks for posting. Blessings, Carley
Thanks, Carley. Hope you have a Great Monday.
You Matter! Smiles, Nancy
You’re welcome! Carley
You have a lot of wisdom.
I think this is one of the nicest comments I have received here on WordPress. Thank you for that! You Matter! Smiles, Nancy
This is a wonderful post about a topic that is often swept under the carpet. It’s our babies and elderly that we entrust into the lowest paid population. What a sad society we are. I love the link to the song – it was sobering.
Thanks so much. I love that old song. I wish we did, indeed, have a better health care system for the elderly. It’s sure not working the way it is. You Matter! Smiles, Nancy
why did i wait until thursday to read this?! well – it was the perfect day to read your message. just last night i was sharing with some friend some of the ism’s my mother used to tell me when i was a child. most of them were received with rolling eyes, but her words taught me what she wanted me to learn. i completely love to hear the wisdom of those who have experienced things i never have. there is so much they teach us, and i am an asking student!
Doesn’t matter what day you read my posts….Monday is just a symbol of every day of your life. I’m so glad you are following along each week. The older I get, the better student of life I get…..better late than never, I guess. You Matter! Smiles, Nancy
great insight – I try to do as you suggest, but will now try to do it more meaningfully
The elderly have great gifts to give us if we will just open our hearts and listen. Glad you will look for more of their gifts. You Matter! Smiles, Nancy